Um, it seems that nobody is getting to the real problem here. The Game Server is unable to even open the initial connection to you MySQL Server. So, either you are telling the GS to connect to the wrong IP or you have a firewall somewhere (either the source or the destination or inbetween) that is blocking the port.
I would start by checking your firewall settings on your VPS
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