There was a similar situation but only with minecraft servers. Now I have switched to these servers
https://ggservers.com/ and there are no such problems. Before that, I was either thrown out after an hour of playing on the server, or as soon as I entered the game. And I am very glad that I decided to change the server, although I was very sorry to start making the server again, because there was a lot of things done and a lot of memories, so it was really frustrating. But now I am already starting to accelerate and make it even cooler, and I already know what mistakes are better not to make and, in general, how best to do it. Now I do everything much faster after gaining experience.